Kim started on the journey no one wants on August 23, 2021. "Your husband’s body has been found", said the detective on the other end of the phone. Her breath was immediately taken away and she went into uncontrollable hysterics. After 11 years of marriage, it had all come to an abrupt and unexpected tragic end and her life would never be the same. What would come next would be a quick unraveling of unexpected secrets, deception, more heartbreak, and layers of grief followed by denial, guilt, and shame. 

Kim transparently shares her story because shame needs secrecy to survive (as stated by world-renowned grief expert David Kessler) and she refuses to give in to either. Grief can be isolating but it doesn't have to be. ​ Kim discovered meaning while healing and founded The Mocha Widow for other women and widows like her.  Kim is a Speaker, a Veteran’s Widow of Special Forces Army Veteran James Handy, a Faith-Based Meditator, she holds a master’s degree in Family Science from Concordia University, St. Paul, and is a Certified Grief Educator.

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How it all began and the tragic end…